Guest Blogger :: Erika
Many of you have read about the trials of getting my mother to not only acknowledge my relationship as it stands, and my fiancée status with wedding pending, but also to have her participate in and attend the nuptials. Here it continues, with great strides this time around. {To catch up on past posts click here and here.} I have spoken of my mother and middle sister, even thrown in my dad, but I haven’t said much about my 15-year-old twin sisters.
Gustave Klimt :: Mother and Child
Last weekend I had a heart-to-heart with my sisters about my relationship and wedding for the first time. They had questions, but very positive loving questions. I severely underestimated not only their intelligence, but their undying love and support of me, the big sister! I am 11 years older than they are, so I get to play both mentor and practice being “mommy” with life lessons taught and learned. They have been, and continue to be extremely close to me. They are now, after six years, fully aware of my relationship and support my happiness and love wholeheartedly!
Colleen Wallace Nungari Dreamtime Sisters
I have to say, talking to them and wanting them to be a part of the wedding was one thing, but making sure I went to “mommy hen” for permission was another. She is their mother, and like it or not, she still gets to make their decisions for them. With her hardcore deep-rooted beliefs and convictions, how was I to talk to her of the subject she so clearly objected to? After considering all methods of communication, I emailed her a loving plea and was determined to have her hear me out as well as ask that my sisters be allowed to attend my wedding.
It went surprisingly well. She is still firm on her non-involvement in the wedding and/or process, but she said the twins are mature, smart and old enough to make the decision of being in my life and wedding. I was taken aback, but found a whole new level of respect for the sweet lady who birthed me. The twins, my soon to be wife Shannon and I are all ecstatic. My sisters are such beautiful, loving girls, and will do us the great honor of being junior bridemaids in our wedding. Seems the situation is evolving. Maybe my wish will come true, if I will it. Maybe my mother will attend after all.
Until next time, live well, love well, be well! ~E~
Guest Blogger, Erika Cardenas and her girlfriend are sharing with us their journey of planning their same-sex wedding. Read more about them here.
