Guest Blogger :: Erika Cardenas

My fiancée Shannon was eager to share with me a recent conversation she had with her mother. Shannon and I have had different experiences as far as our sexuality is concerned; she doesn't consider herself lesbian, straight or bisexual. However, Shannon fell in love with and is marrying me; someone who struggled with the knowledge of being gay from a young age. Shan’s mom informed her of an “interesting” picture in Time magazine that lacked an article, but did have a caption near it about Ceara Sturgis.  She insisted we look it up. I went online to the New York Post and found a similar article about Ceara, a senior in high school who wore a tuxedo in her yearbook photograph.  

Picture courtesy of New York Post

The school district in Mississippi reports they will not print the picture because their rules require girls to wear drapes (dresses) and boys to wear tuxedos.  Shan claims her mom kept saying how “pretty” Ceara was as if looking more masculine would have been reason enough to dismiss the picture from the yearbook. As for me, friends and family continue to assume that because I wear cargo shorts and used to have a faux-hawk that I’m the “man” in our relationship. I’d be lying if I didn’t say that Shan loves my femininity, but this article brought back many feelings of discomfort, insecurity, anxiety and guilt from my early childhood struggles with identity. When you check out this article, think of how you would feel if boys wore pink and girls wore blue. Oh wait! They do.

But what if boys wore pink dresses and girls wore blue suits? 

Until next time, live well, love well, be well! ~E~

Guest Blogger, Erika Cardenas and her fiancée are sharing with us their journey of planning their same-sex wedding. Read more about them here.

Guest Blogger :: Erika Cardenas

We are down to three months and mere days from the wedding date and need to get to the nitty gritty of sending out invitations. We just finished our engagement shoot, which went fabulously, so we are eagerly anticipating the pics so we can start designing our invitations. As you know, we chose Largo Photography to shoot our engagement session as well as our wedding. After seeing a sample from our session, “art” is an understatement of the love that Chris and Tammie captured. Enjoy.

All pictures above by the amazingly talented duo Largo Photography. To learn more about them click on our FabUlist above or their image on the left of our home page. They are available for couple shoots, family shoots, pet shoots, wedding shoots, senior portraits and more. Freakishly talented!

Guest Blogger, Erika Cardenas and her fiancée are sharing with us their journey of planning a wedding. Read more about them here.